Dennis M. Ayotte, Jr. is La Prensa's resident Writer-at-large with many of his own MAN issues. Follow his column as his shares his tales of success, his failures, insecurities, unique views on life and occasional rants.
S.A. .- Dennis M. Ayotte, Jr. is La Prensa's resident Writer-at-large with many of his own MAN issues. Follow his column as his shares his tales of success, his failures, insecurities, unique views on life and occasional rants.
By Dennis M. Ayotte, Jr →firstname.lastname@example.org
I had to write a follow-up to my last week’s column “Circle yes or no” because of the emails and comments I’ve gotten regarding my dating philosophy which hinges on just being yourself.
I enlisted the help of one of my good-looking girlfriends to see if my viewpoint was off. And as usual I was right, according to her it all starts with being yourself.
We (guys) can have any women in the world, but there are some basics we need to apply in order to make it happen.
You don’t really need a nice car or stacks of cash to get the woman you want however there are some key points you must keep in mind.
Dress like you care. If you have nice clothes, it speaks volumes of you from a women’s perspective. First off it says you care about something and secondly no one wants to be seen with what might be a pan-handler they picked up off the street. More importantly, make sure you don’t cut corners in the sense that if you have a nice outfit on don’t forget about your shoes or if you’re sporting a Rolex that your attire is comparable. Also, it doesn’t hurt to splash on some cologne—splash not dowse.
Have your own life. The last thing a girl wants is a stage-5 clinger. I’d hope you had some friends before you met her, so don’t make your world revolve around her. You don’t need to be at her place every night and you surely don’t need to be at her side 24/7. This could project many things like you’re a possessive freak or that you are a loser. If you feel like you might be heading down that path then get involved in your community, join a social sports league or start writing a book—do something. There is such thing as too much time and that leads to getting sick and tired of something. Remember when you were a kid and had that awesome toy you played with for days for hour upon hours then one day you were over it. Same rule applies here.
You must pass the friend test. This one is tough because there is no study guide, no Cliff Notes or anything of the sort that will prepare you for the friend test. The only advice here is to be yourself and don’t overdo it. If you know you’re going to meet her girlfriends don’t prepare anything. If you come in with a Dane Cook bit memorized consider it game over. You never know what her friends are expecting or see as acceptable but if you are yourself and they hate you then just spread really bad rumors about how they sleep with a bunch of dudes—no don’t do that. I personally say who cares, but if you act like your normal self because someone has to be really shallow not to like you for just being you.
Brush your teeth. No one likes stanky breath.